Well, I must admit that share is not one of my favorite words when it comes to someone asking /or thanking me for sharing that with them. I am not referring to a piece of pie. I have found that I can be a very open person, on my terms but when quizzed about personal issues, I tend to shut down. Sometimes the psychobabble can just put me over the edge and I always chuckle in the back of my mind when someone asks me to share that piece of information they are trying to ellicit from me. It makes me think of childbirth and I would gladly SHARE that with them in the sense of the amount of physical discomfort by pinching their ear and sharing a part of what it feels like to deliver a baby. So that indicates my level and understanding of sharing or willingness to share. I find most people will share what they are comfortable with and not all information will be forth coming and it depends on your relationship with that person. I have a best friend of over thirty years and I SHARE everything with her and know that we will be friends till the end because we both have SHARED so much that no one else would ever understandand we can't afford to not be friends at this point. I true friend/spouse/ sibling/ child is a blessing. Someone that you can totally be honest with and let it all out, good and bad. For those of you that this puts you out of your comfort zone, I say journal. Ok, quit swearing at me already. Just start by writing down something simple... maybe five things you are grateful for today and then down the road maybe those things that you can't and won't say outloud as at least it unburdens you and then finally just submit yourself to sitting down without regard to sentence structure, grammer, etc. and expound on a daily, weekly or monthly basis a five minute rendition of what you need to say out loud but can't. For those of you that read my journal, you know what I am talking about. I didn't regard anything else other than putting words and thoughts to paper. I just went the next step and shared it with you and maybe through some of my ramblings you found your own thoughts. Remember your sharing can be for your eyes only and just a way to let go. If you find you want a voice you can also share that with someone you trust and care about as well. Having said all that, during the hectic times such as now, it gives you a little window of respite and I hope you share your thoughts if no one other than yourself. Let go of guilt, burdens, concerns, and cares- even for a moment and never doubt you are loved. Make it a great day! s
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AuthorMy name is Sue Kilburn and I am a clinical nurse breast cancer educator at the Yolanda G. Barco Oncology Institute in Meadville, Pennsylvania. Archives
March 2015
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