Often working with patients and their situations, you can see how their life has progressed and how they have dealt with situations in the past as history tends to repeat itself and what worked before, you will try again. Now, don't get me wrong, we all wallow at some point and time and we get lost along the way but putting one foot in front of the other and just moving forward is much better than stalling in neutral.
Make your list of pro's and con's and what you can change and what you can't and how to work with it to make it the best the whole way around. It is always good to have a sounding board too, someone outside the immediate loop that can just listen. I will be the first to admit that as your children get older and leave home, doesn't mean it gets easier.
I love my kids as my kids but also now as adults that are even friends as well. I adore my grandchildren although I don't get to see or be with them as much as I would like. I long for the time that I can have them and it will just be Poppa and Grandma time with the kids even though I love the parents, I want that time alone with them.
I have a job that allows me to work with my strengths and to be involved with the patients and their families and also out working with the community. I love my husband and we are still working our strengths and weaknesses but I know that he has my back and I have his. He stopped in yesterday at work and just brought me popcorn(my favorite treat). He is everyone's friend and he will go out of his way to help you at anytime. My children are amazing adults who have a faith base and are caring and committed people with great work ethics and commitment as well as compassionate and loving. I hear from most all of them every week and some several times a week despite being all over the world. I have a support system of friends that have stood by my through thick and thin and I will admit my side has been somewhat thin due to my work schedules as of late but I know they would be there in a minute if I needed them.
My faith is what gets me through, oh yes, there are questions, doubt, sometimes anger and confusion but I stay constant in faith and hope. Now that is personal faith but there are all kinds of faith, I have faith in my husband, my peers, my healthcare team, my country. My prayers are for all and that our world with be better by all of us praying and doing better and the faith is I look for good and don't dwell on the bad and know there is a higher power at work here.
So I love my life and hopefully through my actions you can also gain strength in your situation. Make it a great day!.S