With this in mind, try to see " letting go of guilt" as evidence of your commitment to your healing: " I want and need to direct all of my energy to dealing with what is happening now, so I am choosing to let go of the past."
If " letting go" isn't easy, it may help to consider new ways of thinking about the past. For example, you can focus on the fact that you did not make past choices with intention of the creating trouble. It would be a different matter if you had hoped to get cancer with the intention of using your illness to hurt others. Rest assured, everyone knows you did not want this disease or intend to hurt anyone. SO, really, it's okay to let go.
Here's another way to think about letting go: All of us live life forward in time, not backward. When we face problems,it's true that it may help to reflect briefly on the past for insights that help us take proper action from now on. But this reflection is healthy if, and only if, we keep it brief. In contrast, ongoing regret about what's over and done only hurts us by tethering to the past, keeping us from seeing- and embracing- all the good in front of us. To move forward and live life, we must let go of guilt and regret.
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My take is just this simple... no one sets a path in life and decides, by all means- I want cancer and throw in a divorce and a few other things to really test my metal and let that define me. Really not buying into any of that but want to stress to you to look at your inner most thoughts and have a good talking to yourself and reframe what you are thinking in order to let it go and move on. Yes, bad things happen to good people. How do you handle these curve balls and move on will define you. We don't all always have a great day or year or life but what we do with this diversity is our choice