It hasn't always been easy and I have had my scares but I am determined to do everything proactive I can by have my check ups and follow up tests done. I strive to laugh and that is every day. Get out and exercise or do something for someone else in need. Look for inspiring stories, books and information. I am living proof that life does go on and your life will get back to an even keel. I don't let cancer ruin my day or my life and I am thankful everyday. So I am reaching out to those of you that are struggling out there and I do hear you but I am going to be the mean mom and tell you that you can do this, there is no other choice and that I love you all. I am a winner even if it is only in my mind which hopefully my light willl help give you some light and you can then reach out to another and we will get through this. There will be friends and well intentioned people that will say and do the wrong thing as they just don't know what to say and how to handle your current status. This is when you change the conversation, laugh and move on in the conversation, or stop and say I don't want to discuss that right now. REMEMBER, make it a great day.S
I have to bring a point to all of you facing your diagnosis that I am sure you already know but you need to hear it from me. I want you to see me, I am alive 8 years after diagnosis. I am proof that life goes on and that I am a survivor like so many women and men out there that have had or are going through breast cancer. There is hope and one day you will look back and even be amazed how far you have come. I don't dwell on what if's. Recurrence is not part of my vocabulary and if I had to have cancer, breast is easily cured if caught early. I am thankful for my life and I never once said why me. AM I stronger than you, NO! I made a conscience decision to be positive, that doesn't mean I was 100% every day but it does mean I would have my cry and I would get back on the horse as they say and move forward. Is it easy to do, no but positive self talk of what you have to do and if you find it difficult make little signs to put up to remind you or make a list to repeat each day.
It hasn't always been easy and I have had my scares but I am determined to do everything proactive I can by have my check ups and follow up tests done. I strive to laugh and that is every day. Get out and exercise or do something for someone else in need. Look for inspiring stories, books and information. I am living proof that life does go on and your life will get back to an even keel. I don't let cancer ruin my day or my life and I am thankful everyday. So I am reaching out to those of you that are struggling out there and I do hear you but I am going to be the mean mom and tell you that you can do this, there is no other choice and that I love you all. I am a winner even if it is only in my mind which hopefully my light willl help give you some light and you can then reach out to another and we will get through this. There will be friends and well intentioned people that will say and do the wrong thing as they just don't know what to say and how to handle your current status. This is when you change the conversation, laugh and move on in the conversation, or stop and say I don't want to discuss that right now. REMEMBER, make it a great day.S
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AuthorMy name is Sue Kilburn and I am a clinical nurse breast cancer educator at the Yolanda G. Barco Oncology Institute in Meadville, Pennsylvania. Archives
March 2015
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