Now, I again feel the frustration of lack of communication and as a mother and a nurse, I feel that my coping would be so much better if the truth was brought out and not avoided or construed and only certain members can get the whole scoop. I am and always will be totally devoted to my family and would drop anything on a moments notice if they need me in any capacity. Avoiding and ignoring or selective random information is more devastating than the truth. Yes, I will worry no matter what, what mom doesn't? I guarantee I can think of more alternatives and outcomes than you can imagine and somehow I am also unable to shut down that mother/nurse thing. Inquisitive minds need to know! I have loved, held, cleaned up, held up, and provided love and security and compassion and will always do so no matter how old any of us get. Caregivers come in all different sizes and shapes and different capacities. As I recently told one friend going through bladder cancer treatment, allow others to help as that is more satisfying and fullfilling that shutting them out, and you do need the help. So with these random thoughts, I hope you have heard that communication is vital and no one person should or could stand alone through the trials and tribulations of life including health, and family. I will be here always for whatever you need, I am a friend, a nurse, and a mother.
It is Monday morning and a bit chilly for the beginning of June. To say that there is a frost warning for tonight almost seems incredulous. I often try to bring new information to this blog and sometimes my own story or views show up. I often have people that want to post on my blog and although that is a great thought, I can only be responsible for the material I present so I encourage people to start their own blog especially if they feel they have something they need to say. This is a blog that comes straight from the heart and from materials I have read and learn from. I try to shoot straight always and be open and honest. I have lived long enough in this lifetime to know it is as important to listen as it is to communicate. I want to be open and honest and I expect no less from friends, families, and patients. Recently, I have found that when communication is not forthcoming or is fractured in some way that it can devastate more people than it can help to protect. My own father died of lung cancer and he and my mother didn't talk about it and I always felt that they wasted too much time and energy avoiding what was really happening and not getting to say the things that needed said, rather just keep hoping that he would get better.
Now, I again feel the frustration of lack of communication and as a mother and a nurse, I feel that my coping would be so much better if the truth was brought out and not avoided or construed and only certain members can get the whole scoop. I am and always will be totally devoted to my family and would drop anything on a moments notice if they need me in any capacity. Avoiding and ignoring or selective random information is more devastating than the truth. Yes, I will worry no matter what, what mom doesn't? I guarantee I can think of more alternatives and outcomes than you can imagine and somehow I am also unable to shut down that mother/nurse thing. Inquisitive minds need to know! I have loved, held, cleaned up, held up, and provided love and security and compassion and will always do so no matter how old any of us get. Caregivers come in all different sizes and shapes and different capacities. As I recently told one friend going through bladder cancer treatment, allow others to help as that is more satisfying and fullfilling that shutting them out, and you do need the help. So with these random thoughts, I hope you have heard that communication is vital and no one person should or could stand alone through the trials and tribulations of life including health, and family. I will be here always for whatever you need, I am a friend, a nurse, and a mother.
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AuthorMy name is Sue Kilburn and I am a clinical nurse breast cancer educator at the Yolanda G. Barco Oncology Institute in Meadville, Pennsylvania. Archives
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