I don't have all the answers or maybe even any but I can sit with you and acknowledge your pain and listen to your concerns and support you through those times and don't we all want someone to do just that. Just the human touch and acknowledgement that you are not alone and your are not crazy in your feelings or thoughts . Life is never just a straight road and the ups and downs test all of us. I can't explain why you had to lose your child or spouse or parent or sibling but I do know that on that road there were many wonderful and loving times and that focus can carry you through and you can share that with someone else when some trigger in their day lets the dam loose and they find that their tears are just pouring out and the ache in their heart is too big to bear. As awful as this may sound, laughter can help dry those tears and it is not that you stop hurting but that you bridge it to a better place where you can handle things differently. None of us are experts or have the answer other than for ourselves, we are all trying to do our best.
Yes, there were tears in the group last night but there was also laughter and then hugs and an understanding that we are all in this together. I hope your day is uneventful but if you find that is more stressful than you can bare, stop and breathe a moment, laugh if you can, and know that a better time will surface soon and that others care. With care and concern for you and yours today and every day.